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The Cover Up: Sabotage (Part 7)

September 28, 2009

As we have seen, each one of us has a defining set of values that guides our decision-making. Most of our values remain at the unconscious level. We don’t spend conscious time deciding if the things we see and hear are valuable to us. And once we begin to cross wires and live inconsistently (cognitive […]

The Cover-up: Cognitive Dissonance (Part 6)

August 26, 2009

So we now know that we are complex as people, and that within this complexity there are competing values that are constantly at war with each other. So how are we able to not only survive, but move forward as individuals? We can very well go around with our minds tied up in knots, what […]

Issues That Inform Our Values (Part 5)

August 18, 2009

We’ve been answering the question, Where do our competing values – all of those elements that make each of us so complex internally – come from? We noted first the family. Then we looked at our individual temperaments, and the Red Zone issues that emerge in each of us, then surface over and over again […]

Issues That Inform our Values (Part 4)

August 13, 2009

We’ve been answering the question, Where do our competing values – all of those elements that make each of us so complex internally – come from? First, we looked at family, and the enormous influence our families of origin have had on our value development.  Let’s now look at additional elements. Personality Issues. Each of […]

Issues That Inform Our Values (Part 3)

August 10, 2009

Remember what we have thus far said. Well-defined people have clear boundaries. They also have a clearer understanding of their internal complexities, including competing values – they are self-aware. This good personal definition with attendant appropriate boundaries act as an “immune system,” protecting us from the inconsistencies and misalignments that are bound to occur when […]

Defining Self (Part 2)

July 31, 2009

“Okay,” you might be saying, “I understand that I need to be more self-aware, so that I can be more clearly defined, so that I can lead more effectively. But how do I go about doing this? I’ve taken lots of surveys in the past.”  Let’s think for a moment what specifically it is we’re […]

The Understanding of My Self (Part 1)

July 27, 2009

It has been interesting to me, as a clinical psychologist, how all of us set goals for ourselves – physical, spiritual, emotional, mental, occupational – and then go about blocking ourselves from achieving these goals. How can this be? Our inner lives constitute a complexity that must be better understood and mastered in order that […]

The Family/Business/Community Conundrum

June 12, 2009

What generally makes church life and functioning so very confusing is the fact that, like no other organization in society, it encompasses the congregant’s expectations of family, business, and community. Each of these elements must be held in tension, and each must be understood clearly, or else confusion will ensue. As a family, the clergy […]

Transformational Change Sneaks Into the Exurbs

February 9, 2009

I was doing a pastor’s conference recently with a number of area ministers. I was presenting the difference between operational change (when the answer resides with the expert within the organization), and transformational change (that involves a shift in values and beliefs, translated into behavior change). I emphasized the fact that if you apply an […]

Conflict Basics: part 3 of 3

December 19, 2008

Blue Zone Blue Zone behavior is focused on the organization’s values and mission. It is a way of moving out of the Red Zone by focusing on underlying issues (even when the underlying issues may be personal). But Blue Zone behavior is motivated by protecting the organization, rather than self. It begins when a person […]